So yesterday I was feeling really proud and exited after completing week 1 of Google’s Technical Support Fundamentals in a couple hours. Today my goal is to complete week 2. It’s not as hard as I thought it’d be and writing binary is way more simple than it seems.
This morning my wife came up to me and asked if she can bring some Thai food to our neighbor which was very very unusual because she has always told me and the kids to keep food and money in the family unless we are giving to a Buddhist Temple. We actually got in many many arguments because I gave things away. Our first argument, that I remember, was over me giving 1,000 baht to total strangers on New Years 2010. I saw them sitting in the middle of the road and thought they were poor so I walked up and gave them a thousand baht bill.
I feel like I need to ‘give’ in secrecy because of her belief. Me on the other hand enjoy giving and makes me feel good. I have tried to explain to her that Monk are no different than the homeless man you see on the corner. We are all equal. She doesn’t see it my way and that’s fine.
Anyways, she asked me this morning and my response was ‘No, why do you want to do that when you told us not to feed or gives things away to anyone but the Temple?’ She looked at me in shock as if I was embarrassing her (Might still be thinking there is a camera recording her) and said ‘I did not!’ and walked out leaving it at that. (Again, with the denial, lying, when there is no need too. I just don’t get it.). When we both know (and the kids) that she dislikes us giving things away. She told the kids, when they tried bring a snack or drink to their friends, ‘Never take food from our house to feed your friends. They have a home with food they can go eat there. We bought food for our house for us to eat, not your friends’
I guess it all depends on our living situations how she reacts, but I think that’s the same for people in general. I would have still said No to her giving the neighbors some Thai food just because I like my privacy and feeding people close by just attracts them more into our lives. Lightly she got one of our children to bring a arts craft over to them, days after they brought some corn from their garden over to us. After we gave them the arts craft they were over again days later knocking on our door. We are too busy with 4 kids jumping off the wall and our marriage needs focusing on, the last thing we need is to bring in more distraction.
I don’t mind if she wants to take the Thai food downtown or even here on the corner of the main road and hand it to a pan handler. It is getting colder our and closer to Christmas and they won’t come knocking on our front door unexpectedly. In fact I will tell her now ‘let’s go for a walk to 97 and give your Thai food to one of the people standing in the middle of the road freezing.’…..I guess she ‘loves that’, but she also said ‘but, you’re coming with me’ as if I was demanded. I told her ‘You can just go.’, but she wouldn’t have hear it. Looks like that’s what we are going to do on our flyer route after the kids get released from school.
My Oppressed & Suppressed Life 