November 28th, 2020 part 2

Self-control. Something I’ve just saw reminded me on a discussion my wife and I had Mind-control and how I can just be furious one second and the next acting like nothing has happened. I can choose where my emotions are most needed. If the calm me is more needed than an emotional havoc. Example would be back in 2015 my wife and I were in an argument to the point I was swearing (only at high anger) and she got a phone call, took it to.the.washroom, and minutes later I heard her crying. Without words I went in and put my arms around her. When she hung up 15-20 minutes later she looked at me and said “how’d you do that?”. Curios I asked “do what?”. “How can you be this totally different person. You were so upset and now nothing.” I explained that I am able to see when people I love need me the most and am able to move my own problems to the backburner for a later time. . .To this day she still doesn’t understand. Sometimes I think it’s her lack of empathy (if that’s there) or her egotistic personality where she can’t see beyond herself (if that’s also a thing). You see I may have years of training, courses, and experience, but my wife is from a whole other planet.