November 28th, 2020

   So am I the bad Guy? I have been asking my 11 year old son to clean his room since noon. At 5:30pm his mom, my wife went to bring him supper to his room. I went in and grabbed that supper and said “clean your room, then come get your supper.” Last thing I do is yell, last thing I do is stress when kids don’t want to listen.  I said “the faster you clean your room the faster you eat.” He ended up crawling to bed, under his blankets. I gave him five minutes then turned off his lights. He stated crying so I said “you don’t need to waste electricity laying in bed. Just let me know when you decide to clean your and I will gladly turn on the light for you.”     Next thing I know my wife calls me to go get something from the garage. My first thought is that she wants to undermine my discipline by sending me out so I say “when the rooms clean”. She replies with “I need the stuff from the garage to make your supper”. So against my own thoughts I go. When I come back she is in our sons room. I don’t want to guess why, but past experience tells me chances are she gave something to eat which defeats my disciplinary actions. It’s very frustrating not having a wife back you up no matter what and instead go against you the minority of the time. I asked her about why she went to the kids room as soon as I left to get a bag veggies from the garage. We almost started getting into an argument when she wanted to get the kids involved. That’s when I said “Nope, kids don’t need to get involved with adult discussions. Nope, I’m done. Kay, stop. I’m done.”